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Welcome again to a different episode of The Woke up Spouse Podcast. I’m Natasha Koo. And in the present day, such as you is simply you and me. And we’re going to be speaking about easy methods to activate your female vitality, and easy methods to use your female vitality in your marriage or relationship. So up to now, the earlier two episodes 34 legislation of polarity and relationships, and likewise Episode 35, easy methods to reignite the sexual polarity inside your man. These are all nice episodes to hearken to in the event you haven’t already as a result of in the present day we’re going to be speaking about female vitality. So how does that play out? And what does that actually imply to grasp that polarity, I actually advocate listening to the 2 earlier episodes. Now, in the present day, it’s simply you and me. Jachym, he was taking a break, he’ll really be again subsequent week for his personal man cave episode, to discover how he experiences you understand, this female vitality and the way it, the way it rejuvenates him and the way he’s impacted by it, for instance, inside our relationship and his tackle it, however in the present day is absolutely my tackle it in my private expertise.
Now, once we discuss easy methods to activate your female vitality, I do wish to type of provide you with an concept of the place I’m coming from. One will not be essentially an lively apply I’m not speaking about it’s not even a religious apply that’s extraordinarily sensible. Okay. And the explanation why I say it’s because we now have so many sides of ourselves. And more often than not, we don’t uncover it till means later in life, or when one thing tremendous difficult comes alongside, or once we’re pressured to disclose or study one thing about ourselves. So for me, when particularly with regards to relationships, it’s the playground to essentially determine who you might be, who you wish to be each as a person and likewise as a spouse, as a girl.
And for me, I feel there’s no richer house, and to be inside a relationship or inside a wedding with my husband, as a result of it’s a spot the place I may be myself, I can discover who I’m, I may be myself. And it’s a spot the place I can actually vulnerably present who I’m now, inside this context, then it’s the greatest place to activate and to point out and to share, and to precise your self that female vitality. Now it’s all inside us. However so many people wrestle to really connect with this as a result of most of us man or feminine, or it doesn’t matter what you determine your gender vitality to be. It’s an especially masculine world that we dwell in. So it implies that his very ahead, the main focus could be very future-focused, his very productiveness and effectivity focus is productiveness and manufacturing and utility-focused.
So this fixed drive to maneuver ahead and to go a sure focus path and to enhance and to stage up and you understand, all this, even after I describe that it doesn’t sound stress-free, proper? It doesn’t sound flowing, it doesn’t sound fluid, it really appears like that it’s important to go in that path, and that there’s not a lot wiggle room to it. And so what does it imply to really be female? And what does it imply to really come from a spot that’s fluid and pure and exquisite and female inside you. And so one option to entry this vitality and every individual is completely completely different. I can’t let you know how you’ll specific your female vitality.
However for me and the girl who I’ve labored with even means earlier than your distinctive relationship after I used to teach ladies solely the one large factor, the actually large factor that everybody can take as a primary step if you wish to know easy methods to activate and to make use of your female vitality throughout the relationship is to really absolutely handle your self. I do know lots of people will discuss self-care and all that type of factor. However I wish to break it down for you. And so they may be completely different than what you’ve heard on the market, okay? It has nothing to do with candles has nothing to do with bubble baths, it has nothing to do with doing all your nails or no matter it’s, taking good care of your self, really has two parts. And when you understand this, you reside this, then your female vitality and your expression will movement freely. I promise you that.
However first, it’s important to handle your self. So taking good care of your self comes into on this means, a minimum of for me, it’s a really profound factor to really handle your self, okay? As a result of most of us dwell, not taking good care of ourselves, not realizing what we want, and never respecting. What’s it what it’s that we do must pay. There are plenty of exterior components. And sure, it’s important to dwell life. And sure, there are issues to handle. However nobody, nobody can handle us. If we don’t first acknowledge ourselves, respect ourselves, after which handle ourselves. Okay. And so the primary type of means of doing this primary step to take with the intention to handle your self to be able to deliver out that female vitality as a result of if you do handle your self, every part flows. Effectively, really, I suppose I ought to break this down much more as a result of there are two steps to easy methods to activate it proper?
However why? Why handle your self, and why does it work? Why does taking good care of your self really activate your female vitality, I feel that’d be a fantastic place to begin and to share with you. I do know from private expertise that after I don’t handle myself after I’m in a nasty psychological or bodily state of being, man, every part irritates me, I’m irritable. I’m simply aggravated. I’m simply pissed off, offended, I’m out of vitality. Tea, espresso doesn’t style the identical anymore. I’m not listening to what it’s, I actually actually want when it comes to meals, or what train or like, the world is simply dim and grim. , these days the place it’s, it’s simply, you’re not having what you want on this life. So issues look grey, nothing tastes good, and, and also you’re simply barren.
That’s a very good phrase like barren, you’re empty. And also you’re not linked to that life vitality the place issues are vibrant and enjoyable. And also you style belongings you really feel issues in, you’re absolutely immersed in dwelling. Proper. And so for me, to activate and to dwell out this female vitality is such a lovely and such a pure factor for us that to begin with, all we have to do is absolutely handle ourselves. However first, we have to know what to do. And in addition we have to know that, you understand, once we are in a very good place, once we are capable of give ourselves that it’s fantastic, like males or your husband, they wish to be round you individuals wish to be round your youngsters wish to really be round you. Since you’re in a very good place. Proper. And so for me, that is foundational to really activating your female vitality. So let’s get into it. Sorry, I teased you earlier than.
However now let’s get into the 2 methods by which and two steps in which you’ll handle your self. The primary one, you in all probability haven’t heard this actually on the market with regards to self-care is to know your fact. Okay? What does that actually imply? Know your fact? It implies that you’re taking the time you’re taking the house, you give your self respect. You give your self the acknowledgment and the compassion and empathy to really really feel after which determine and discover out your fact. Whether or not it’s one thing that you simply want, emotionally, perhaps you have to discuss to somebody, perhaps it’s time to see a good friend, it’s time to be social. Or it’s one thing bodily such as you wish to transfer your physique you’re bored with sitting right here or you understand, you wish to expertise one thing new, otherwise you simply must take one thing off your to-do listing and simply give your self a break this night. Proper or to ask for assist. Realizing your fact that requires you to hearken to your self, it requires you to really be there for your self.
And that’s the way you really start to know what it’s that you simply want. Not only for your self, but additionally out of your accomplice. Proper. And so that is step one in every of taking good care of your self is to know your fact, know your self, and to really feel it and to acknowledge it and be absolutely revered. This sounds straightforward, proper? Simply know your self, after which, you understand, simply do it. However so many people, ladies have been introduced up in such a means the place we put everyone else’s wants earlier than us. It feels so acquainted, so regular, to at all times cater to different individuals to at all times give in to different individuals. However you have to know your self earlier than you count on others, like your husband, to really learn your thoughts and to provide, determine what it’s that you simply want. As a result of connecting your self is one factor, whereas the visitors work out of your accomplice to you is a totally completely different factor. And we will’t give that accountability to different individuals. And so if you’re dwelling your true if you respect your self if you’re connecting to your self, you’re giving your self that empathy, that respect the compassion.
That’s such a magnetic and superbly female high quality. Since you’re going inward, you’re not going that loopy productiveness effectiveness, going up, climbing up the ladder, like that type of vitality, proper? It’s simply what’s right here, what’s right here inside me proper now what’s right here within me what requires my consideration? What can I give myself and also you’re coming into your self feeling that bathing in that after which comes the following step. However already on this, on this first step, realizing your fact and, and, after which giving it your all not simply doing it somewhat bit in order that you understand this homework is finished. However actually tapping into that.
Inside our signature teaching program, the Cherished Spouse Program did an entire pillar on this of unleashing your Goddess inside. And there’s no means we will unleash any Goddess inside we don’t acknowledge that we’re right here and that we want sure issues and that we will and may hearken to these wishes, proper, and wishes. And I’m going into rather more element throughout the program. However that is only a small snippet of what it’s that, you understand, I’ve taught for thus a few years and still have lived for thus a few years. Now, the second step, to taking good care of your self, which in flip, actually lets you specific and use your female vitality inside your relationship and together with your accomplice in your marriage is to dwell your fact. Okay, to dwell your fact.
This really requires quite a lot of braveness. It steps away from worry, and doubt self doubt. dwelling your fact implies that you worth you see, you’ve hearken to your self sufficient and deeply sufficient that you simply really do one thing about it. Proper? So generally, you understand, when you understand you, like there’s one thing in your thoughts and it’s bothering you want, oh, I ought to do this for myself, like, Oh, I’m drained, I ought to seize a cup of water. Or oh, you understand, I don’t I don’t really feel so good in my physique. I actually wish to transfer somewhat bit. These little hunches come these little nudges come you understand, all through their day. However what number of of these nudges that really assist us to handle ourselves and assist us to deliver again and, and be full inside our tank in order that we will exhibit this stunning female vitality?
What number of of these nudges will we really hearken to and act upon? Plenty of occasions we hear it, we all know what we must always do and we simply don’t do it. We don’t do it. Proper. So I can let you know proper now. How did I handle myself and the way do I did I do know my fact and dwell my fact? Proper earlier than this podcast minutes earlier than this podcast. I used to be mendacity on my mattress and simply taking a fast relaxation. A fast nap as a result of I wanted it. I wanted it with the intention to present up right here and be with you. And I would like it as a result of after this podcast I’m going to be with our My daughter who’s only a bit greater than six months previous, and has particular wants, proper?
So loads is demanded from me. However loads then wants to come back again inside me. And meaning I’ve to dwell that fact, I needed to dwell that fact. And all that is based mostly on respect again to your self. Now, if you dwell your fact, it might come in several codecs. One is that you simply begin to communicate your fact, proper, you begin to say to others, what it’s that you simply really need. Communication together with your accomplice turns into clearer turns into extra clear turns into extra sincere, you set boundaries, as a result of you understand your fact. So that you really communicate up for your self, and also you say no to issues that you simply don’t want, and you’ll’t, you may’t have in your life you don’t need in your life, proper. And all of this stuff really actually helped to information you inside your relationship.
As a result of this connection to your self, and this outward expression of your self brings a sure sort of taste into your relationship, which then in the event you’ve listened to the previous two episodes, actually soften the polarity of the female and masculine collectively inside your relationship. And so to dwell your fact implies that we now have to step away from sure psychological concepts or limiting beliefs that we’d have about ourselves that we aren’t adequate or that you understand, we’re not deserving of it. Or that it’s not time proper now, there are different issues which might be extra necessary. So, to dwell, your fact is to really step away from sure patterns of your previous, and to step away from the acquainted. And to then discover, and to be, and to simply, like, go somewhat bit and belief your self. Now, this, these are the 2 steps to handle your self to know your fact. And to dwell your fact. It sounds so easy and a completely are two quite simple steps. However to really embody it requires you to see your self in another way, proper? So we wish to activate our female vitality, we wish to use our female vitality inside our relationship. However the query I’ve for you is, do you are feeling worthy? Do you are feeling sufficient?
Do you are feeling stunning? Do you are feeling full? Okay, do you are feeling full inside you that you simply even have one thing to provide, they really have one thing to provide to your accomplice and inside your relationship. For those who’re so exhausted, so drained or so rundown, by doing issues that you simply don’t wish to, then this can be very troublesome, if not not possible, to then connect with your female vitality. In order that is step one is to handle ourselves. And I can promise you this, irrespective of how a lot your accomplice loves you, this isn’t one thing that they will do for you. As a result of they don’t know what you want. And so they can guess till the top of the world however they only received’t get it.
As a result of the primary one who must hear first is you. And so as soon as we do, activate your female vitality, it’s such as you start to unlock who you actually and absolutely are, you may start to dream extra. And you may start to share these visions and goals together with your accomplice you’re capable of play and to attempt to to precise your self probably not worrying in regards to the end result, and the way it will prove. And in your man to obtain this and I’m certain yeah, he’ll share much more about this on the following episode about his private experiences with this. However as a girl to be that is such a carefree means of being proper you may let go of these packages and you’ll simply be your self. And you may specific your self absolutely. You may transfer your physique movement freely, and you’ll heal, you may heal personally for me, until I do know my fact and until I dwell my fact. There’s quite a lot of ache and trauma and therapeutic that will get caught when you don’t do these two issues. Okay?
As a result of so long as you don’t handle your self by realizing and dwelling your fact, in some methods, you might be nonetheless hiding behind the facade. You’re nonetheless hiding behind issues which have occurred that you’ll not presently settle for in any respect. Okay, as a result of until you reside your fact and and you understand your select, you may set your boundaries. And that implies that time and again, you’re going to get harm by different individuals, together with your accomplice inside your relationship, it implies that when it’s time to talk up for your self, you received’t, it implies that when it’s time to really, you understand, share what it’s that you simply really feel, you may’t really feel it, you may connect with your self. And that may be a full minimize off from who you might be, and your female vitality. And so that is my tackle activating the female vitality. And my, my model of self care is that straightforward.
However from from from backside of my coronary heart, I wish to let you know that, even for me as a, as from my very own private expertise, it actually wasn’t a straightforward factor to do. And I do know that plenty of ladies we really wrestle with the phrase, feminine lady, mother, daughter, sister, these are closely loaded phrases, these are phrases the place we now have a lot of considering round, we now have a lot of a lot of judgments round, and plenty of expectations. And straightaway, we put ourselves into sure bins for who we should be and the way we have to carry out, which is once more, extraordinarily masculine. So with the intention to even recover from plenty of the conflicts, and arguments and points inside your personal relationship, step one we will do is to pivot away from the opposite individual and her again to you. We do this by filling ourselves up by taking good care of ourselves, after which to essentially present up, present up, not since you ought to or must, as a result of you understand what’s true for you.
So that is all I needed to share with you in the present day, I hope that it is smart to you. For me, it’s an especially sensible means of being as a result of I feel everybody is aware of this, proper? That mother, that spouse, who’s consistently irritated, who’s consistently pissed off, who, who has a behavior husband, who consistently annoys her, and who can’t get something, proper. And she or he simply appears friggin depressing the entire time. Okay, and I can promise you, when she’s coming from that place, there are many wounds, there’s a lot of trauma, there’s a lot of harm, that has not been healed. And she or he will not be taking good care of herself, she will not be dwelling her fact, she’s denying her fact. And she or he is unquestionably not realizing or dwelling her full female expression. So on this means, I do wish to say that, hey, the female is gorgeous, the masculine craves us to point out up absolutely, for us to let our hair right down to let go.
And simply to be that to embody that. However to begin with, it takes braveness from inside you to really step into that. As a result of having a cherished, you understand, feeling inside your coronary heart each time on the finish of the day realizing that you’re so beloved and so taken care of and, and also you’re simply you understand, the girl of your man’s goals, that’s potential, however solely if you really are in an OK house your self. And that course of should be began from you, and isn’t a job in your husband, to then do and to finish inside you. Proper. So when each polarity and put each energies are present and fiber throughout the relationship can positively play off of itself. Okay.
However when you’re fully dry, and empty your self, it’s subsequent to not possible to then play how that marriage as a playground so that you can take pleasure in and to have enjoyable and to play. And so these are my two cents on easy methods to activate your female vitality and to easy methods to use your female vitality inside your relationship or your marriage. I hope that it factors you in a sure path. And that path is unquestionably inside you. And I do know that who you actually are and the reality inside you, it actually desires to come back out and might need been deemed by earlier boyfriends and even the present relationship. Nevertheless it’s as much as you to type of maintain your self up and say, what, on this life, I’m gonna do it. I’m gonna do it for myself. I’m not gonna let myself down.
I’m not gonna let different those that myself down. I’m gonna really be who I’m right here to be. And that might be this stunning female expression of mine. However first I must handle myself. I must know my fact and to hook up with that if I’ve turn into numb, and oblivious to it. And I’ve forgotten easy methods to know that. And I’m to dwell it as a result of I, somebody wants to talk up for myself. And that must be me. And so these are the issues that may provide the greatest life that you may pray for. It brings a lot vitality again in, and it makes it stunning. And it makes you and your husband type of come collectively on this magnificent means that it’s actually onerous to have, if you don’t care, handle your self, and don’t activate your female vitality naturally. And so, I hope that you simply’ve realized a factor or two from this episode.
These are the issues that I’ve skilled for myself, and that I’ve taught different ladies everywhere in the years. And I hope that you simply take away feeling somewhat bit extra like that, you may, you are able to do this, and that you simply’re worthy of it. And you may have what you need. Nevertheless it’s as much as you to know it and to succeed in for it. And to be it. If all this sounds simply good, completely good to you. However you don’t know easy methods to start, or it’s so new to you, it nearly sounds scary, that I actually, actually encourage you to go over to yourexceptionalrelationship.com/cherished. There you’ll find out how one can work with us what our professional teaching program is all about. And the way we will completely simply change the standard of life for you, as a result of you may heal your relationship you may heal, you understand, your personal wounds, female wounds, and you’ll be you may be joyful and you’ll actually be who you’re meant to be on this lifetime.
With out the conflicts with out that argument with out all that ache and struggling that we so many people undergo inside our properties attributable to {our relationships}. So if that’s what you want, then I actually encourage you to succeed in out as a result of I’m right here for you. And till subsequent week, yeah, he’s gonna come again and communicate with you and provides his tackle why it’s so stunning and helpful that you simply as a spouse, join your female vitality and the way it actually impacts and balances and actually actually rejuvenates the mat. So till then, and if you have to try the present notes or get the transcript or something that I discussed inside this episode in the present day. Then be sure to go over to your distinctive relationship comm 4 slash 36 The quantity three and 6 till then, and thanks for becoming a member of me in the present day.
