Some ideas on turning 41!
The previous couple of years I’ve written letters about Turning 39 and Turning 40. Each years felt very vital and an enormous turning level within the age spectrum.
Right now I’m turning boring #41.
Final night time pals and I went to King Household Vineyards for trivia. It was a blast! My birthday want immediately is to calm down at residence, go to my favourite exercise class, and revel in a simple dinner at residence with the boys. Tomorrow Thomas and I’ve an enormous night time out in town.
It’s been a busy few weeks celebrating plenty of Libras and Scorpios!
Some issues I’ve observed in my 40s so far:
I nonetheless really feel like a younger grownup
I might say my mind feels prefer it’s within the 33-34 age vary. And to suppose that was nearly a decade in the past.
The time I really feel most like a 40 12 months previous is after we play groups of 20 12 months olds on the soccer subject. Geez they’re fast! Our staff’s common age is someplace within the higher 30s to decrease 40s, and we’re consistently joking about needing to retire from the principle league that has too many 20 12 months olds working round.
My physique is slowing down
Talking of working round, I’m not the quickest, quickest, strongest model of myself. I really feel like upon hitting 40 my mindset modified from “push your self as laborious as you’ll be able to!” to “DON’T GET HURT!” In my fitness center lessons I’m going at 90% as an alternative of 100% as a result of I actually worry if I went at 100 I might break or tear one thing. I’m nonetheless coping with a shoulder concern that may plague me perpetually, however I’ve realized the right way to handle it.
Truthfully I’m so grateful that I’m able to be energetic. From my foot points throughout my school years, I do know what it seems like not to have the ability to transfer your physique, and I’m so grateful I’m able to transfer mine how I would like. Some days that’s strolling to and from the preschool twice and that’s what feels actually good. Different days it’s a 2 hour soccer sport after which a number of days of relaxation afterwards. Relaxation is now a requirement.
Regardless of my physique slowing down a bit, I’m my most assured self on the fitness center. Health has all the time been a approach for me to blow off steam, join with others, and destress, and I all the time really feel glad in my group ex lessons. This submit comes up quite a bit in dialog with different ladies my age.
Most ladies I speak to about physique picture say that their power and talent is extra essential than appears. Most individuals aren’t prepared to sacrifice life to look a sure approach. I feel that is each knowledge that comes with age and acceptance of what’s.
Nothing is as essential as sleep
I noticed this humorous meme just lately from Emily Freeman about sleep in your 20s, 30s, and 40s:
Final weekend was packed 3 sporting occasions and three birthday events. We occasion hopped each Saturday and Sunday from one to the opposite. And each days as we have been driving residence at 5pm to placed on sweatpants, cook dinner or eat leftovers, and have a quiet night time in, Thomas and I remarked that we truly liked having daytime occasions and comfy evenings in. “We’re daytime folks” he mentioned. You couldn’t pay me to remain out previous midnight nowadays! (Truly we’re going to a live performance tomorrow night time and can most likely be out till 11 and I’ll want all day Saturday to relaxation, haha.)
Life is sophisticated
Like a wonderful wine, there are layers upon layers to our lives. I’m consistently combating for simplicity whereas additionally accepting that with a husband, two youngsters, and a home to handle, nothing will ever be easy. Whereas programs (like these I train in my Digital Litter program) assist to maintain me organized with all the adulting duties, after I get overwhelmed with all there’s to do time smart, I’ve to remind myself to zoom out quite a bit and keep in mind what actually issues. Individuals matter. Well being issues.
This 12 months hasn’t been a simple one for us. Between the stress of our renovation (logistics, transferring twice and managing the funds of all of it), after which some unhappy and sophisticated household dynamics that I can’t share on-line, there was quite a bit happening behind the scenes. We now have tried laborious to assist those that want assist and do the suitable factor even when we’ve got been wronged. There are query marks that I want have been commas.
Regardless of the above paragraphs, after I zoom out and look down at this life from a birds eye view, issues are good. Being again in our home has exceeded all expectations, and on a day-to-day degree issues are nice.
What’s subsequent?
Subsequent weekend: we’ve got a enjoyable Friday night time out deliberate with pals (the boys are going to do a sleepover with their grandparents!) after which a fifth celebration for Birch on his massive day. Spoiler alert: it’s Star Wars themed 😉
Subsequent month: we’re internet hosting Thanksgiving in our new home!
Subsequent 12 months: we’ve got not one however two tropical holidays deliberate! One simply Thomas and me and one with the children. I booked each journeys 100% on bank card factors and am engaged on an e-book coaching for getting began with free journey. (Somebody please reward me time for my birthday so I can end it!)
Thanks for approaching this journey of life with me one other 12 months,
xx,
Kath
Cake at 39
